Right now Caroline and I are not with Eli. We are in Utah, visiting family and friends. It was really hard to say goodbye to him; we'll be gone for 11 days. But, we are trying out what it is like to be gone for tests. Next week Eli has 3 tests. That is a lot! My sister whose husband recently finished a masters degree told me it's kinder to everyone if the wife and kids take a trip so dad can focus on school. I believe her. A few weeks ago Eli had two tests just days apart and we hardly saw him. It was also hard for him because he felt like he was neglecting us, even though we understood he needed to be gone studying. I think it will be a lot easier for him with us gone because he won't have to worry about spending enough time with us, he'll be able to study at home because now it's quieter, and he'll be able to stay later at school and not have to worry about if I need the car or not.
But the hard part is being away from him. I hate that we're out here having fun with family and he's just back in a quiet, empty apartment studying. I hate not being able to see him. But, all in all, I think it will work out okay. The best part is that one of his tests is a final for his histology class, so when we get back on a Friday afternoon he will be done with tests and have a whole weekend with no studying! I can't even imagine what that is like! I'm really excited for that. I think we will take Caroline to a pumpkin patch.
So, that is what we are up to right now. Separation, but separation with a purpose. Caroline is doing well out here. She loves seeing all the aunts, grandparents, and cousins. She's sleeping well and eating well here too, I was kind of worried she'd be weirded out because it's not home, but she is just fine! We really miss Eli though...
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Monday, September 26, 2011
Over the hump
I feel as if we are over the adjustment hump! It was hard getting used to the way things are now, I think I was kind of mourning for how things used to be. I got really used to Eli coming home from work and not having anything else to think about. But, there are great benefits to being out here. We have our own place again, we are making new friends, Eli's one more step closer to achieving his goals. Things are working out well.
Last Thursday Eli had a big test, and he did great on it! What was wonderful about it though, was after the test we picked him up and went to Cherokee Park, this big, beautiful park in the middle of Louisville. We put Caroline in the swings for the first time and she loved it. We went on a nice walk, and then met up with some of his fellow students for dinner. It was great. Then we came home, put the baby to bed, and then Eli and I watched a movie together! It's been a long time since we've done that. That night was just perfect! Then I also scored because he was so burned out from studying so much for his test that he didn't study Friday night either! We just relaxed at home. Sunday was another relaxing day too. It was a wonderful weekend!
Today was back to the grind, but we were still able to go for a walk in the park after dinner and enjoy the beautiful fall weather going on out here! Caroline really likes going for walks, and so do we. I think Eli is able to spend more time with us this week because a week from today Caroline and I are going back to Utah for 11 days to visit family. It's kind of perfect timing because the second week we'll be gone Eli has three tests. So he can use the week before the test and the week of to study and not worry about spending time with us. He can solely focus on school. That will be good for him because when he has tests that he has to study for he still feels guilty for not seeing us as much. We understand why, but it's still hard to be apart that much. Now he won't have the guilt. We will miss him though. I think his family will be sad to not see him too. But, I'm really looking forward to it. The great thing is we get back right after his last test. That is the end of a class for him so the weekend we are back he will no studying to do at all! We are planning on going to a pumpkin patch, and hopefully some other fun things we haven't decided on yet.
Caroline and I manage to stay busy during the days. I've been doing a lot of crafts. I made a cleaning schedule, so we can stay on top of housework. I try to plan our meals and make something good and healthy most nights. Tonight we had a spicy thai veggie wraps from my sisters blog. They are delicious. I think tomorrow we'll have asparagus spinach parmesean risotto.
Life is great, and now that we are adjusted I think it's just going to get better from here!
Last Thursday Eli had a big test, and he did great on it! What was wonderful about it though, was after the test we picked him up and went to Cherokee Park, this big, beautiful park in the middle of Louisville. We put Caroline in the swings for the first time and she loved it. We went on a nice walk, and then met up with some of his fellow students for dinner. It was great. Then we came home, put the baby to bed, and then Eli and I watched a movie together! It's been a long time since we've done that. That night was just perfect! Then I also scored because he was so burned out from studying so much for his test that he didn't study Friday night either! We just relaxed at home. Sunday was another relaxing day too. It was a wonderful weekend!
Today was back to the grind, but we were still able to go for a walk in the park after dinner and enjoy the beautiful fall weather going on out here! Caroline really likes going for walks, and so do we. I think Eli is able to spend more time with us this week because a week from today Caroline and I are going back to Utah for 11 days to visit family. It's kind of perfect timing because the second week we'll be gone Eli has three tests. So he can use the week before the test and the week of to study and not worry about spending time with us. He can solely focus on school. That will be good for him because when he has tests that he has to study for he still feels guilty for not seeing us as much. We understand why, but it's still hard to be apart that much. Now he won't have the guilt. We will miss him though. I think his family will be sad to not see him too. But, I'm really looking forward to it. The great thing is we get back right after his last test. That is the end of a class for him so the weekend we are back he will no studying to do at all! We are planning on going to a pumpkin patch, and hopefully some other fun things we haven't decided on yet.
Caroline and I manage to stay busy during the days. I've been doing a lot of crafts. I made a cleaning schedule, so we can stay on top of housework. I try to plan our meals and make something good and healthy most nights. Tonight we had a spicy thai veggie wraps from my sisters blog. They are delicious. I think tomorrow we'll have asparagus spinach parmesean risotto.
Life is great, and now that we are adjusted I think it's just going to get better from here!
Saturday, September 17, 2011
Friday/Saturday
Not that a ton of people read this (if any), but I had the intention of blogging every night after I put the baby down to sleep. I missed last night. If it's any consolation I was exhausted and trying to finish a project.
On Friday I finally went to hobby lobby to get some much needed crafting supplies. I immediately made a yarn wreath with felt flowers, so cute!, and a bunch of flower hair pins and clips. They turned out really great. I was making a lot for a girl in our complex who just got baptized today. I wanted to give her something for a special day. So, as soon as Caroline went to bed last night I was hunched over the table with a glue gun and scissors. It was fun, but now my back hurts. I still have more crafts to do though.
Today was spent in futility. See, I've had my eye on a beautiful pair of boots. It's taken me a long time to jump onto the boots train, but I finally see their merit, but sadly, now I have no money to buy any. So, yesterday my very sweet mother sent me some money just because. Isn't that so nice? Thanks mom! But the boots I want are $140, not the $50 I had to spend. So, I drove all the way out to the zappos outlet, but they had no boots I want in my size. I also stopped by TJ Maxx. they had some boots that I kind of liked, but they were still $100 and I'd rather just spend $40 more and get the ones I really like! I need to find a way to make some money. I'll work on that.
Today I also made the best sugar cookies I have ever made and we went to the aforementioned baptism.
One thing I love about Eli is that he is very steady. I tend to be emotional and somedays I may let my hormones take over and feel like everything in our marriage is completely different, or I may let everything Eli does annoy me, then when I apologize and ask him to tell me if I ever annoy him he says, "no, not really. I just love you." Then I REALLY feel like a jerk. My point with saying that is that this adjustment to medical school is difficult. I feel like it's harder on me than it is on Eli, but then again, I think I let myself loose focus a bit more. Or maybe it's because he has so much to learn that he has no time to dwell on all of the little things like I do. Either way, it is very hard, but it's also wonderful. Eli makes it great. And while I may be in a stinker mood, and I may not be as nice to him as he deserves, he always reminds me of why I married him and why I love him so much. As I write this he is in the kitchen doing the dishes. He always takes the trash out, including the diaper genie. He takes time to tell me how much he appreciate what I do. He is the best husband I could ever ask for. I know that if he could, he would buy me whatever boots I wanted. I don't even know where I was going with all of this. Life is hard, but even with our ups and downs, we're doing great. That's all.
On Friday I finally went to hobby lobby to get some much needed crafting supplies. I immediately made a yarn wreath with felt flowers, so cute!, and a bunch of flower hair pins and clips. They turned out really great. I was making a lot for a girl in our complex who just got baptized today. I wanted to give her something for a special day. So, as soon as Caroline went to bed last night I was hunched over the table with a glue gun and scissors. It was fun, but now my back hurts. I still have more crafts to do though.
Today was spent in futility. See, I've had my eye on a beautiful pair of boots. It's taken me a long time to jump onto the boots train, but I finally see their merit, but sadly, now I have no money to buy any. So, yesterday my very sweet mother sent me some money just because. Isn't that so nice? Thanks mom! But the boots I want are $140, not the $50 I had to spend. So, I drove all the way out to the zappos outlet, but they had no boots I want in my size. I also stopped by TJ Maxx. they had some boots that I kind of liked, but they were still $100 and I'd rather just spend $40 more and get the ones I really like! I need to find a way to make some money. I'll work on that.
Today I also made the best sugar cookies I have ever made and we went to the aforementioned baptism.
One thing I love about Eli is that he is very steady. I tend to be emotional and somedays I may let my hormones take over and feel like everything in our marriage is completely different, or I may let everything Eli does annoy me, then when I apologize and ask him to tell me if I ever annoy him he says, "no, not really. I just love you." Then I REALLY feel like a jerk. My point with saying that is that this adjustment to medical school is difficult. I feel like it's harder on me than it is on Eli, but then again, I think I let myself loose focus a bit more. Or maybe it's because he has so much to learn that he has no time to dwell on all of the little things like I do. Either way, it is very hard, but it's also wonderful. Eli makes it great. And while I may be in a stinker mood, and I may not be as nice to him as he deserves, he always reminds me of why I married him and why I love him so much. As I write this he is in the kitchen doing the dishes. He always takes the trash out, including the diaper genie. He takes time to tell me how much he appreciate what I do. He is the best husband I could ever ask for. I know that if he could, he would buy me whatever boots I wanted. I don't even know where I was going with all of this. Life is hard, but even with our ups and downs, we're doing great. That's all.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Thursday
Today was a pretty nice day, but it got especially nice at the end. Caroline was a good baby today. She has a tooth coming in. It's so cute, but it kind of makes me really sad because it means she's growing up and getting bigger. I just want her to be my baby forever. We went for a walk in the park before dinner. It was perfect weather, mid 60s, sunny, light breeze. It was beautiful!
This morning was nice. Caroline, me, and Eli all got to sleep in! Eli took two tests this past weekend, so his brain is fried. So, he didn't get much studying done today, but that also meant we got to spend a lot of time with him. I always like it when he's home in the morning because that is when Caroline is usually the happiest. When she took a morning nap, so did I. Then we played, she had a second nap and I showered, dressed, and got a schedule for our day and a cleaning schedule for the house made. That was good for me. Then Eli came home! He was planning on studying until late, but due to the brain fry, he came home! We actually went to dinner, for the first time. We were lucky, Eli's mom sent him some money for a dinner out for his birthday. We went to Chuys. It was good mexican food. Caroline sat in a restaurant high chair and ate her dinner I brought her. She did really well for her first time, but she kept trying to eat the edge of the table. It was really nice to go out together, talk, and have fun. And to not to have to make dinner and clean it up!
That's about all of my day. I've got some projects to decorate Carolines room that I want to get started on tomorrow. First off is a trip to Hobby Lobby, love that place! enjoy your evening!
This morning was nice. Caroline, me, and Eli all got to sleep in! Eli took two tests this past weekend, so his brain is fried. So, he didn't get much studying done today, but that also meant we got to spend a lot of time with him. I always like it when he's home in the morning because that is when Caroline is usually the happiest. When she took a morning nap, so did I. Then we played, she had a second nap and I showered, dressed, and got a schedule for our day and a cleaning schedule for the house made. That was good for me. Then Eli came home! He was planning on studying until late, but due to the brain fry, he came home! We actually went to dinner, for the first time. We were lucky, Eli's mom sent him some money for a dinner out for his birthday. We went to Chuys. It was good mexican food. Caroline sat in a restaurant high chair and ate her dinner I brought her. She did really well for her first time, but she kept trying to eat the edge of the table. It was really nice to go out together, talk, and have fun. And to not to have to make dinner and clean it up!
That's about all of my day. I've got some projects to decorate Carolines room that I want to get started on tomorrow. First off is a trip to Hobby Lobby, love that place! enjoy your evening!
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Wednesday
Today was a nice day. It was just a pleasant day at home. We ran a couple of errands. Caroline took good naps. We met Eli at the bus stop. It was nice. I made apple butter in the crock pot. It was heavenly smelling that all day. I had the thought while I was putting it all together and Caroline was playing so nicely by herself in the walker that there's nothing better than cooking in your kitchen with your baby playing happily nearby. It's the best feeling.
We had rice with vegetables for dinner. It's a good, hearty meal. I just cook brown rice, stir fry a package of frozen vegetables, scramble a couple eggs and throw it all together with some soy sauce and terriyaki sauce. After dinner we went to Graeters to try the peach ice cream. I'm kind of still in shock that we actually went. The only time we've been out, other than when my parents took us out, was when the power was out. Other than that we've eaten all of our meals at home, which has been nice and cheaper. But it is nice to get out every once in a while. It's also good to go out together, which hasn't happened yet, other than going to church, and I don't think that really counts.
I think the thing that has been the hardest in this adjustment period is that I just really miss Eli. I'm used to seeing him more. I'm used to him being able to spend hours of time with me and Caroline without worrying that he needs to be studying. It's hard for me to go to sleep without him. That is kind of a problem because he usually stays up late to study and I'm tired earlier, but I can't fall asleep without him. I definitely need to get over that, especially before residency.
Like I said, today was a good day. It was just normal. I've decided that I love normal. It's the best. Eli and I have always said that one of the things we love about each other is that we are both normal, regular people, but we are able to see the extraordinary in each other as well. I sometimes feel as if I don't have any amazing talents, at least not the "talent show" type talents. But maybe one of my talents is just being normal. I actually like that one.
We had rice with vegetables for dinner. It's a good, hearty meal. I just cook brown rice, stir fry a package of frozen vegetables, scramble a couple eggs and throw it all together with some soy sauce and terriyaki sauce. After dinner we went to Graeters to try the peach ice cream. I'm kind of still in shock that we actually went. The only time we've been out, other than when my parents took us out, was when the power was out. Other than that we've eaten all of our meals at home, which has been nice and cheaper. But it is nice to get out every once in a while. It's also good to go out together, which hasn't happened yet, other than going to church, and I don't think that really counts.
I think the thing that has been the hardest in this adjustment period is that I just really miss Eli. I'm used to seeing him more. I'm used to him being able to spend hours of time with me and Caroline without worrying that he needs to be studying. It's hard for me to go to sleep without him. That is kind of a problem because he usually stays up late to study and I'm tired earlier, but I can't fall asleep without him. I definitely need to get over that, especially before residency.
Like I said, today was a good day. It was just normal. I've decided that I love normal. It's the best. Eli and I have always said that one of the things we love about each other is that we are both normal, regular people, but we are able to see the extraordinary in each other as well. I sometimes feel as if I don't have any amazing talents, at least not the "talent show" type talents. But maybe one of my talents is just being normal. I actually like that one.
Beginning of a New Life
Hello and welcome to my new blog!
The reason why I started this is selfish: I need something for myself.
You see, my husband, baby, and I just moved across the country so he could start medical school. I'm so proud of him. It is a goal we have been working towards for the whole three years of our marriage. A lot of late nights studying for tests, applying, writing personal statements, and packing for interviews have happened. We've worked together for this. I would edit all of his applications, pack his suticases for him, take him to and from the airport, and any other thing that needed done. I was happy to do it. It was exciting to work together. I finished my undergraduate degree before he did, we both worked and we had our sweet little Caroline earlier this year. I was excited to move to Kentucky and get started on the goal we had been working on.
Now we are here. We are settled in our apartment, we know the area pretty well, and school has started. I couldn't be prouder of Eli and all that he has accomplished, and all that we have accomplished together. It's lots of fun to live in a new place! We've met some new friends and have some old friends that live here too. There is a lot to enjoy here and we are happy. But, there are some adjustments to be made too. This is a completely different lifestyle than what we are used to. There are lots of changes and that always is hard.
My goal in starting this blog is not to complain. I've been preparing for medical school and what it would be like ever since we were engaged. I know it's hard, and I'm ready for it. But talking about our difficulties does not mean complaining. I need this to be a way for me to write about and work through my feelings during this transition time. I hope readers will not think I am whining or complaining. I'm just discussing.
I hope other medical school wives, students, prospective medical school wives, friends, family, or anyone who is going through changes and transitions (who isn't?) will benefit from this. I plan on writing every night after the baby goes to sleep. I'll write about what I did that day, what I'm feeling, what I'm thinking, and any other thing I feel is pertinent. I hope you like it. Feel free to leave any comments you'd like. I'd love to hear back from you.
Cherie
The reason why I started this is selfish: I need something for myself.
You see, my husband, baby, and I just moved across the country so he could start medical school. I'm so proud of him. It is a goal we have been working towards for the whole three years of our marriage. A lot of late nights studying for tests, applying, writing personal statements, and packing for interviews have happened. We've worked together for this. I would edit all of his applications, pack his suticases for him, take him to and from the airport, and any other thing that needed done. I was happy to do it. It was exciting to work together. I finished my undergraduate degree before he did, we both worked and we had our sweet little Caroline earlier this year. I was excited to move to Kentucky and get started on the goal we had been working on.
Now we are here. We are settled in our apartment, we know the area pretty well, and school has started. I couldn't be prouder of Eli and all that he has accomplished, and all that we have accomplished together. It's lots of fun to live in a new place! We've met some new friends and have some old friends that live here too. There is a lot to enjoy here and we are happy. But, there are some adjustments to be made too. This is a completely different lifestyle than what we are used to. There are lots of changes and that always is hard.
My goal in starting this blog is not to complain. I've been preparing for medical school and what it would be like ever since we were engaged. I know it's hard, and I'm ready for it. But talking about our difficulties does not mean complaining. I need this to be a way for me to write about and work through my feelings during this transition time. I hope readers will not think I am whining or complaining. I'm just discussing.
I hope other medical school wives, students, prospective medical school wives, friends, family, or anyone who is going through changes and transitions (who isn't?) will benefit from this. I plan on writing every night after the baby goes to sleep. I'll write about what I did that day, what I'm feeling, what I'm thinking, and any other thing I feel is pertinent. I hope you like it. Feel free to leave any comments you'd like. I'd love to hear back from you.
Cherie
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